Hubs and I have been married for almost ten years. The first years were ROUGH. Firstly, Hubs was an atheist and I knew the Lord but wasn't walking with Him. When we got engaged we just kind of rolled along. We didn't discuss any big issues or have any sort of plan. We were relying solely on ourselves. What a huge mistake and think of all the work we made for ourselves.
How many times I look back on those difficult years and wish I had picked up my Bible. I prayed but I am pretty sure those were selfish prayers. I was using God as my slot machine and not as the one who is in charge of my life.
If you are engaged please, PLEASE take some advice from me. Pick up your Bible. Read what is says about marriage and what it means to be a wife or a husband. Educate yourself about what the Holy Spirit has in store for your marriage. Once you've had a conference with the Lord I would also urge you to check out StartMarriageRight.com. You can equip yourself with tools that has taken me years to find on my own. One that has really been a blessing to Hubs and I is the concept of the 5 Love Languages. There is a resource at StartMarriageRight.com that lets you figure out what that Love Language is from the get go. What I like most about StartMarriageRight.com is the fact that it is FREE. Yep, free. Check it out and give yourself years of joy!
Please trust me when I say that loving your husband will at some point stop being an emotional reaction and start to become a choice. These compiled resources will lighten your load. They will make your life with your husband a blessing.
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